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Monday, October 15, 2018

In statistics when an extreme outcome is realized, it is often lumped into an "outlier" category, so as not to inexplicably alter the norm. Curiously though, every person is quite unique. Not all outcomes can be standardized within a limited number of deviations. "Normal" is great - but so is the magic of the unexplained breakthroughs, the one that beat the odds, the chance of a lifetime....that moment when people change! Many times the inexplicable occurs, against all kinds of odds. Just because it looks like or sounds like an outlier - doesn't make it un-true, false, or abnormal. It might just be wonderful! ---K. LaRose
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Wednesday, October 10, 2018

More Than a Patient ....

Mental Health Day is an affirmative suggesting people can achieve "health." The illness based paradigm, as legitimate as it is may inadvertently overlook the indicators of health! To be mentally well is a thing; some people are there and know it. Some people need help in knowing what health actually looks like - so that they can see a way to get there. Not always is a person sick or disordered or in need of a diagnosis. On this mental health day, begin to consider and see that your mind, body, psyche and your life - has possibility. #BeWell #Therapy #TalkifUwant #MentalHealth

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Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Today is your chance ...

Today, you and I have a chance to make a difference! No matter how you view yourself, or how you view your life situation, there's somebody near you, somebody around you, somebody you know who you touch! It may be your laughter, it may be your cynicism, it may be your humor, it may even be your silence, or just your presence. Today as you think about your chance - our chance - take it! You never know if you're going to hit it exactly right or maybe mess it all up but you can be sure of one thing: as the new day begins, the sun shines somewhere, and there is another new hour and another new day.


Sunday, September 9, 2018

"I'm sorry" NOT healthy?

Healthy couples seldom use the words "I'm sorry" to resolve their problems.  Part of the reason seems to be that doing wrong is known between healthy partners as never an intentional act. Believing an apology is owed creates division, in-equality, a one up / one down interaction and the notion that a hurt effected was purposeful.  What healthy couples do instead, is they move about with problems as if they have spilled milk.  Just as happens when milk is actually spilled it is known by these healthy folks that the intention was NEVER to do so on purpose.  It is as harms occur, it is known to be accidental.  Perhaps, because of this more reasonable view of each other, the loving ones are better able to join each other in cleaning up the mess.  "I'm sorry" is culturally and morally relevant; it is common and "normal" in its use.  However, it is not used by the healthiest and happiest of couples. Accidents happen; clean them up!

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Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Moving to beneficience?

Your view of things is predictable, not mystical at all and you can generate beneficience in thought ... for you and for others.  Beneficience?  Yes ... seeing something for a good ... that is for some benefit.  It starts with you.  Today,  to move your mental well being a notch closer to "better" take a moment to look back and savor your past.  You have gone through some things, you have failed and you have succeeded, you have been changed and you have changed others.  These times you're remembering were ingredients to bring you to where you are - in this moment of recollection. If you look closely at your past you will see that by being able to recall it ... even if much of it WAS rough you have made it through.  Take some time to attend in memory to your walk, up hills and down, in the rain and the sun, among many and in isolation, in abundance and in deprivation ... YOU HAVE MADE IT TO TODAY.  Dr. Seligman, in Authentic Happiness, summmarizes three areas to the science of happiness, where one part is this concept of "savoring." The ingredients individually may be yummy or gross ... but as the recipe comes together it's okay to take in the mix that is uniquely and wonderfully YOU! #authentichappiness #seligman #savoring #mentalhealth #counseling #therapy #mindfulness #cognitive

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Thursday, August 16, 2018

Love is what?

Love evokes passion, curiosity, obssession, envy, jealousy, joy, lust, comfort, delight, drive, longing, enthusiasm.  Love promotes designs, planning, rearranging, kaniving and it draws people to places, things and others sometimes with oddities quite hard to explain. Love is said to be the cure and the cover to all things; it is the explanation and the reason for being, for staying and sometimes for leaving.  Love is blind, it is patient, it is mysterious.  Love is said to bring people together in tragedy and in celebration.  Love is said to turn brother against brother, child against parent, and it can turn friends to foes.  Love can be lost and found, it can open a heart and jade one.  Love can create letters, cards, stories and books. Love is the reason to scripts for movies, concepts for art and sculptures and it be the basis for sounds, lyrics, music.  Love is in the air, it puts heads in the clouds, and is called a light by some.  Synonymously love is equated and antithetically connected to its opposition - ironically as love/hate.  Love is felt, reminisced, forgotten, supressed and it sometimes it is tough.  Love is said to be the tool for killing using its close relative - kindness.  Love is clothed in many symbols, it is cleaving and is the support to protection.  Love can be weakening and strong, vulnerable and powerful, maddening and peaceful.  Love can be romanced and romantic.  Some love love, some  wonder when it will happen for them.  It is said that there is "one" love, true love, and loverboys.  Self love is made of varieties in self care, self affection, pampering and pleasure.  Love is said to be real, pure and some call it sacred, holy or blessed.  Love may be in the senses, in the mind, it may be sensual, sexual or even platonic. Love is said to be foolish and fun.  It is the stuff that makes for holidays, super powers in likes of "cupid" ... it is said to fill a heart and for some it is the explanation for a bleeding heart. Love is said to be the justification for wars and for causes. There are those who believe there is a side of love on which to stand ... and there are those who say they just don't understand.  Love can be given, accepted, intended and rejected. Love is the reason for products of parfums, flowers, candies, arrows, jewelry, metals, rocks and it can even be the ingredient "added" to recipes in food.  Love maybe in the keys of a piano, where "A Love Story" melodically becomes the theme song to "Romeo and Julliette" or it is Macklemore's "Same Love."  Love could be equated "sugar" and even the Color Purple character "Shug Avery" could be seen as love.  

Love may be equal and eternal. In science love may simply be the hormone of oxytocin.  And, explained as the doctors of a hard science summize it, love being biologically evidenced in brain and stomach ... it is the stuff for which much is made.

Love ... precious or pejorative, and possibly it is both dependent upon events, sequences, time, history, formation and capacity ... it's a thing. 

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Tuesday, August 14, 2018

GUILT: It cannot only be called "an emotion." Here's why ...

Guilt is not only emotion. In fact, to call guilt "a feeling" makes it impossible to change. You see, as a feeling guilt does not occur without an associated cognition. The thought that something could or should have happened differently is what activates guilt. And, thoughts can be changed. The idea that a past event could have or should have been different is what makes guilt totally invalid. How can a past be changed? The idea that what is known now COULD have been known back then is the loop that creates the emotional chaos, hidden in "guilt". Could and should are helpful in the future. In the past ... it is the cognition of guilt, invalid as it is, that has to be changed.
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Monday, August 13, 2018

Science is taking away the mysticism of psychological terms ... moving from "why" to "how" is better for mental health consumers

Scientists in biology, the human genome project and in neurobiology have contributed wonderfully in changing mental health! Biological equivalence could be a way of taking seemingly confusing psychological phenomena - and better understanding how it all works. As the "hard" scientists of the world do their work, they directly and indirectly contribute to the profession of mental health services - and - for the better. Increasingly, science requires the profession to move away from the "why" and more closely look at the how. Here, a clients life can be viewed with less 'mysticism' and more processes of brain and body! Words like serotonin and limerance, oxytocin and trust, dopamine and motivation, opioid production and pleasure, confidence and testosterone, doubt and cortisol, epinephrine and fear - it is magical to understand and appreciate. Thank you SCIENCE for all that you teach and do! #therapy #counseling #neurobiology #science #mentalhealth #talkifuwant