Monday, April 15, 2019
Friday, March 29, 2019
Implicit bias is NOT complicated: It can simply change.
The idea that implicit bias cannot change is false. Changing implicit bias begins with changing two simple words. Find. Better. Words. #Bias #ImplicitBias #CtrlAltDel
Saturday, March 23, 2019
K. LaRose, first published May 2018, TalkifUwant.com
Photo credit: Kat Yukawa, Unsplash
Thursday, March 21, 2019
Thanksgiving ... in March? Sure! Gratitude is a thing in the concept and in the science of happiness! It is not, however, a spinning of a view for the sake of GETTING happy. It is actual gratitude - a true assigned thought, an assigned view and perspective that is genuine to the eys of the beholder. Why is that? Well, you don't need someone to TELL you what you already know ... "be grateful!" they say. And many times it is a politically correct way of also saying "and shut up, I don't want to hear that you are upset about ANYTHING." Being thankful is finding something, maybe even ONE thing that you hold dear and that you have some degree of thanks for ... whatever that is! I recall once spending three days with what is called an out of instructional control youth - he had been cursing at me, yelling at me, throwing things through doors and windows and just being so damn tired of it all. I knew I was at my "wits end" so I called my boss and said something like - "if this doesn't stop I'm going to quit!" She said the most counterintuitive thing of all ... "right now what you need to do is walk into that destroyed room and find one thing that kid is doing right - a real thing - and tell him that you are glad that he is doing it." In my exasperation I said something that was MOSTLY sarcastic: "okay, like hey, I'm glad that you are breathing?" My boss said, without missing a beat -"Kurt, if that is all you have then yes, go tell him that you are glad he is breathing. I know it seems like the craziest thing given how awful he's been, but try it." I was pissed for the chaos, the days of sleep deprivation, the impact on my family and the other youth in the home ... but ... the ONE thing I was okay with --- it was that this kid was breathing...and at that moment, it was the ONLY thing. As I said it to him, conscious of just how stupid this might seem or sound, it was all I had and my angst turned to understanding. In all of the things that mattered, the material, the time, the interference, the disruptions --- what mattered the most was that he (and I) were alive. My angst shifted ... just enough to bring a bit of joy. Today, in hindsight, that view is a memory that contributes to today's happiness. Getting through, trying something new, and being true about that which I was grateful - reshaped my entire paradigm ... at that time in looking at the moment, in looking forward, in prioritizing, and now in hindsight! K. LaRose
PHOTO CREDIT: Amy Reed, Unsplash.
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
Monday, January 21, 2019
Within five years of his Lincoln Memorial speech, proclaiming “thank God Almighty I’m free at last!” Martin Luther King Jr. would become the victim of an assassination. The eerie parallels of notoriety in their generations apart and in common positions, both billowing out famous words that would play over and over in a repetitive history that deems them worth repeating, their assassinations of two who become ‘greats’ in the annals of revolutionaries, and then MLK having as his backdrop a statute of Lincoln to now there too is a statute of MLK! As he went about his life addressing ‘the majority’ MLK created iconic moments so that “free at last, free at last” to this day necessarily perpetuates. His task was probably known to be a grand cause, as indicated by other now famous words he spoke - not so long ago attesting to character instead of color as another one example. I wonder if today MLK would be pleased about the changes he and others have forged and the changes that others have assumed since his passing. For all of the 2019 glass ceilings that have ethnic correlations – and - for all of those same ceilings that appear to have been broken – what might MLK say in looking at a city such as this? In looking at a country such as this? Ethnic disparities across various cohorts remain. Also, arguments over whose fault “it” is - remain. Likely the forgone admonition of MLK would be his same call for today: “We have also come to this hallowed spot to remind America of the fierce urgency of Now. This is no time to engage in the luxury of cooling off or to take the tranquilizing drug of gradualism. Now is the time to make real the promises of democracy.” Today sir, you are honored. Photo Credit: Jeronimo Bernot on Unsplash.